A lot of people struggle with confidence. It can be with work, home life, sports, or really anything. The thing you are not feeling confident about is usually something that is new to you. I do believe the old saying "practice makes perfect" is true. 

Let's think about this. I am new to snow skiing. Often when we get up in the morning and plan to go skiing, I already start stressing out a bit. I worry I am going to be too cold, not do very well, or even worse fall and break my leg and I won't be able to do all the things I love to do daily. When I get up to the ski resort, I am feeling nervous and start to tense up. By the time I get off the ski lift and ready to ski down the mountain, I have completely put myself into a tizzy. I ski down the mountain in a tense position and struggle with my turns. After a few runs, I am tired due to my tense body position. 

I was getting really tired of feeling that way. Especially since I watch my husband effortlessly flow down the mountain. So I decided I can only fix me, and I needed to work on my confidence when skiing. I decided to take a few lessons and consciously change my attitude. I now get up in the morning and think of all the positive things about skiing later that day. I can get a workout in, enjoy the beautiful snow, spend time with my husband, laugh and it is all just 30 minutes away from our house. When I get there, I confidently carry my skis down, put them on, get on the lift and think about how fun this is going to be. I also prepare myself by refreshing the things I learned at my lessons in my mind. Although I am not perfect, YET, I can go down the mountain and have fun and feel good about myself. 

If you are struggling with confidence, start with this, change your mindset. Tell yourself positive things instead of negative things. This helps immensely. Also, change your nonverbal behavior. Stand up straight, hold your head up high, inhale, and speak with confidence. Even if you do not feel this way, just doing it helps you start to feel more confident and be perceived as so. Lastly, if you are struggling with confidence and need guidance, get it. Good help is priceless and makes you feel so much better. 

If you relate to some of this and are interested in hearing more about how I work on my confidence or want to learn more about confidence as a whole, please send me a response. I would love to hear your stories, thoughts, or questions on the topic.